I'm Not Going to Sell You a Superficial Guide to Love

I'm Not Going to Sell You a Superficial Guide to Love

I'm reaching new heights, and I want to take you with me. Those of you who have followed my journey since the beginning of The Problem With Dating have experienced a lot with me, and therefore, you are well aware that I've always declared that I'm no expert when it comes to dating and relationships. I don't have the answers. I am going through everything just like you are. The only difference is I share my experiences (and the conclusions that come with it) on a public platform, and because I am open to growth and steadfast in my belief that love still exists, I am able to reach certain epiphanies that perhaps others are not.

For that reason, I am constantly evolving, and I don't anticipate that coming to an end any time soon, because there are constantly new capacities to be discovered inside myself. And that brings me to the reason for this post...

The last few weeks have hurled me into a transformation that I wasn't even aware I needed to be on, which is why I've been a little quiet on the blog-front, and last night everything became so clear.

The purpose of The Problem With Dating was always to dive into deeper reflection and conversation. Yes, let's start with talking about dating, because it's a topic a lot of us can relate to, but that's just to get your toes wet. The reason I created this website was to provide a platform to shift our focus, restructure our consciousness, and get back to basics. Happiness, self-worth, love...these are essential to living a fulfilled life, and yet we've been thrown into such a whirlwind of bullshit, we don't even know the true meaning of these things anymore.

We overanalyze situations, we complicate things, we make texts and social media etiquette the rubric of how to define love and loyalty, and it's all so superficial and ridiculous and I'm sick of it.

I'm not here for it and I'm not going to promote it.

Sure, it's easy for me to whip up a post with a click-bait headline like "7 Ways to Know For Sure He's Super Into You," but that's not real. And most of all, that's not important. At times, I'll admit that I went down similar routes, because I wanted to create content that you'd enjoy. I didn't wanna get too deep out of fear that I'd drive you away, but guess what? We need to get deep. We're in dire need of getting deep, because we've lost ourselves.

I take pride in knowing that the majority of the content I provide on here is quality. It doesn't skate over real issues, it doesn't offer quick and fast solutions, because I know that there are none when it comes to problems of the heart. So, I aspire to continue doing that and to challenge you to remember what love really means.

Love is unconditional. It does not come with a contract that has obligations and rules. It's not a tit-for-tat dynamic. Within that love there is freedom, trust and honesty. It's not based on follows or likes or how fast they text back or labels. Don't belittle soul connections to superficial ideals placed on you by society.

It's hard. And some of you may be so confused with what I'm saying, but I promise I'll continue to write about this to make it clearer. I just needed to put something down on "paper," so that it can serve as a reminder to myself that I'm not going to play in this game. I'm not going to become just another talking head that feeds into this facade of what love is, because I know better now, and I will continue to expand my understanding of this. And with that enlightenment comes a lot of responsibility, because I was given gifts to teach and heal and share. It took me a long time to own that, but I'm here, and I'm ready to serve.

So, yes, there's a problem with dating, and the root of that problem is a problem with people.

Now that we're aware of this, I'm excited to help bring us back home.